Is Yelling At Your Child Harmful?

It’s easy for us parents to become stressed out by the constant stream of events. It’s easy to have your life flipped upside down by responsibilities, backtalk, temper tantrums, and career demands.

It’s natural to lose your composure amidst all that chaos. Shouting and yelling at your kids is one common way this shows up. The occasional outburst is acceptable, but frequent outbursts might be detrimental to your child.

Parents should know that yelling at their children can adversely affect their mental and physical health. It can also affect their growth and development.

One of the most prevalent forms of discipline used to remedy misbehavior and ensure children comply is, unfortunately, parents yelling at them in times of frustration or stress. Over time, frequently using this method of correction does not lead to improved conduct.

In addition, studies have shown that yelling at kids regularly exhibits higher rates of violence, conduct issues, and depression. Fair and caring alternatives to traditional ways of punishing kids are good for both the kids and their parents.

Why do parents yell at their children?

The simple answer is that parents raise their voices when angry or overwhelmed. Still, that’s rarely the answer. It might keep the kids calm and compliant for a little while, but it won’t change their behavior or perspective.

In a nutshell, it makes you afraid instead of making you aware of the effects of what you do.

Parents are the primary educators of their children. A child’s behavior will reflect the norms of the family, including the acceptance of angry outbursts and other forms of aggressiveness.

Drawbacks of yelling at your children

There are both short-term and long-term psychological effects of yelling at kids.

Long-term effects

Yelling at a youngster might have serious psychological repercussions down the road.

1. Emotional issues

Any or all of the following mental health issues may develop if you yell at your child:

  • Issues in society
  • Lack of confidence
  • Disruptive and intimidating actions
  • Issues with behavior
  • Anxiety


2. Chronic pain

Painful illnesses in later life, such as neck and back issues, headaches, arthritis, and other chronic pain, have been linked to traumatic experiences in childhood, including yelling.

3. Depression 

A youngster may experience anger, fear, and sadness after being yelled at. The child’s mental health could be negatively impacted.

This might lead to more serious psychological problems, including anxiety or depression, if this happens regularly. Suicide attempts, unsafe sexual behavior, and even addiction are all possible outcomes of depression.

4. Changes in brain development 

Yelling and other forms of harsh parenting can alter a child’s brain development. Brain regions responsible for processing sound and language are significantly different in people with a history of verbal abuse at home.

5. Physically detrimental effects

Physical health might be negatively affected for a lifetime if you expose a child to stress. If children are verbally abused often and harshly at home, they may be more likely to have health problems as adults.


These effects include:

  • Withdrawal from the parent
  • Disruptive behaviors. Girls may respond with rage or irritation, but boys tend to lose their temper more frequently
  • Anxiety symptoms
  • Acts of aggression

Poor behavior getting worse

Some parents think that yelling at their children is the best way to get them to stop misbehaving or to teach them not to misbehave in the first place. Unfortunately, research shows that yelling at a youngster might make things worse.

When kids are yelled at by their parents, they often respond by acting even more disobediently. When parents get angry, their children act out more. Because of this, the cycle of shouting continues.

What are alternatives to yelling at children?

Kids who are close and open with their parents are more likely to emulate their example and strive to make their parents proud.

Yelling at a kid isn’t the most effective technique to teach them a lesson. Additional suggestions for parents include:

a. Try to be cool and forceful when addressing inappropriate behavior

Do not say anything to your child that could be seen as demoralizing or harmful when they misbehave.

When discussing what kinds of actions are appropriate and what kinds of actions are not with your child, it’s important to keep making eye contact.

b. Learn to identify the causes

An outburst of shouting is not spontaneous. A reaction to any form of stress or action typically causes this. A deeper understanding of oneself can help with decision-making and reduce the need for angry outbursts.

c. Encouraging them to talk about how they feel

Try talking with your child about how they feel and what went wrong, and see if they want to share. Your youngster may learn to respect you and change their behavior if you take this approach.

d. Try a new and exciting activity together

Do not bother with rebukes and lessons when your child does anything that causes you to lose your cool (for now). Get started with the connection. Having a meaningful conversation is the best method to mend a broken friendship.

Once everyone is feeling more relaxed, it’s a good idea to cuddle up and read a favorite book together, paint nails, have a tickle fight, play a game together, share a grub, toss a football, or wrestle.

e. Replace threats with actual actions

They feel unsafe when their parents yell at them or discipline them. Consider giving them natural consequences when your child acts out rather than yelling at them.

The repercussions need not be dramatic. Simple things like limiting screen time, imposing a time out, or taking away toys can be effective.

f. Make amends by apologizing

It’s a frequent misunderstanding that asking a child for forgiveness indicates weakness. We teach our children a valuable lesson and set a good example when we apologize and ask for forgiveness. Everybody makes mistakes, and it’s important to learn to ask for forgiveness.

g. Get out of the conflict zone

Instead of losing your cool and ranting, taking a step or stepping out of the room so as to collect your thoughts, assess the situation, and figure out what to do next.


Yelling is counterproductive and unnecessary, and the evidence to this is overwhelming. A parent’s use of excessive anger is not evidence of their incompetence, but it is indicative of a need for help and, perhaps, additional resources.

It’s possible to be a parent who is kind, fair, and encouraging. A more peaceful home life with the kids is possible with practice and advice from other parents, parent support groups, or a trained expert.

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